The 5 Stages of Grief After a Trump Election
March 2, 2017
Months have passed since the fateful night of November the 8th, and although some darkly cynical schemas of humanity have been validated, many are still left rendered in states of shock.
As the next few months reveal what exactly these four years have in store for us, a slew of feelings can arise. The 5 stages of grief after a Trump election provide a helpful guide to your overwhelming emotions during this dark time.
- Denial. “But Nate Silver’s polls are always right…”
- Anger. “Go to hell, Nate Silver!
- Bargaining. “Maybe something will happen to him.” “Maybe they will recount the votes.” “Maybe the electoral college will disintegrate overnight.”
- Depression. Attempting to filter through the onslaught of information. Overwhelmed, heart sunken. A desire to crawl away and hide from the internet.
- A̶c̶c̶e̶p̶t̶a̶n̶c̶e̶ Constructive and Sustained Resistance – for the next four years.
How can this be done, and especially, sustained for the entirety of this term? Judith Nilan, current organizer of the Resist Trump meetings in Home, articulates this shared uncertainty.
“What can young people do? What can anyone do? There are so many options it can be overwhelming. A bit like trying to drink out of a fire hose. But I think for all of us a key question is, “Where do I stand and what do I stand for?” What do I believe in? What calls to me? Then…focus,” said Nilan. “Focus on one or two issues about which you are passionate. We can’t all be involved in everything…but we can make a difference in one thing. So find folks who are concerned about the same things, be informed, and join together with creativity and passion to make a difference. Speak up and show up.”
How does one speak up and show up?
Here are some ideas:
At your nearest Planned Parenthood clinic, or volunteer your time without leaving home in these ways, which include emailing your senators and representatives, utilizing social media, and sharing stories.
Donald Trump was right when he said “Planned Parenthood has done very good work for some, for many many, for millions of women.” However, he proceeded to say he is planning to defund – which is why the organization needs your support now more than ever.
Take action– again without having to step outside – through the American Civil Liberties Union (ACLU).
Get involved with the Northwest Immigrant Rights Project, by attending their Know Your Rights trainings or volunteering.
The Home Fire Station hosts a Resist Trump meeting every third Saturday, and the group is eager to involve more young voices. The next meeting is March 4th from 2-4 PM. Currently led by Nilan, although she states “we are working quickly to develop a shared leadership dynamic. It’s not about ‘me’, it’s about ‘we’.”
The Pacific NW Solidarity Calendar provides a master list of events occurring in the Seattle area.
The PHS Progressive’s Club meets Wednesdays after school from 2-4 pm in Mr Bill’s room W4. Alex Matias, who ran for state representative in the last election, will be there as well.
Stay informed. Inform others.
Weeding through 70 tons of fake news and click-bait articles can become tedious.
Find trusted news journals that provide reliable information instead of subjecting yourself to the onslaught.
Even if you come across information that is not be applicable to you or your situation, spread it so that someone who needs it, may find it, such as what to do if immigration agents are at your door.
Know your rights when demonstrating or protesting.
Every dollar you spend is a vote.
Boycott businesses that hazy agendas. Even if intentions are not rooted in hate, they are still valuing money and greed over human lives. Ignorance, complacency, and greed are just as dangerous as the new administration.
Here is a list of companies that support Trump/perpetuate hate.
Keep Your Mind On Your Mission
“Anger is a great motivator. Fear and hopelessness are paralyzing. It is so vitally important that we are not overwhelmed and paralyzed,” said Nilan.
It is possible the Dark Times will engender an age of deeper awareness and solidarity amongst people hoping to form a different world than what we are currently experiencing.
“I am more hopeful now than I’ve ever been. Never have I known people to be so awake to what’s going on. Never have I experienced so many people speaking out and showing up to create the future we want,” said Nilan. “Where all people are honored. Where Mother Earth is cherished.”